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Next Meeting: April 15, 2020, 7:00 pm virtually with an emailed link from the coordinator
To Discuss: Stay With Me by Ayòbámi Adébáyò

Modern-day Nigeria: Yejide and Akin have been married since they met and fell in love at university. Though many expected Akin to take several wives, he and Yejide have always agreed: polygamy is not for them. But four years into their marriage – after consulting fertility doctors and healers, trying strange teas and unlikely cures – Yejide is still not pregnant. She assumes she still has time until her family arrives on her doorstep with a young woman they introduce as Akin’s second wife. Furious, shocked, and livid with jealousy, Yejide knows the only way to save her marriage is to get pregnant, which, finally, she does, but at a cost far greater than she could have imagined. An electrifying novel of enormous emotional power, Stay With Me asks how much we can sacrifice for the sake of family.

Ayobami Adebayo was born in Lagos, Nigeria, and has written for the BBC, LitHub, The Guardian(UK) and others. She has received fellowships and residencies from MacDowell Colony, Ledig House, Sinthian Cultural Centre, Hedgebrook, Ox-bow School of Arts, and Ebedi Hills. She holds BA and MA degrees in Literature in English from Obafemi Awolowo University, Ife. Ayọ̀bámi also has an MA in Creative Writing from the University of East Anglia where she was awarded an international bursary for creative writing. In 2017, she won The Future Awards Africa Prize for Arts and Culture. She has worked as an editor for Saraba magazine since 2009.

Stay With Me was shortlisted for the Kwani? Manuscript Project as a work in progress in 2013. After it was published in 2017, it was shortlisted for the Baileys Prize for Women’s Fiction, the Wellcome Book Prize and the 9mobile Prize for Literature. It was also longlisted for the International Dylan Thomas Prize. Stay With Me was named a Notable Book of the Year by The New York Times and a Best Book of the Year by The Guardian, The Economist, The Wall Street Journal.

To Think About While You Read: Consider the family unit as a social force in Stay with Me. How do the opinions of family members influence the couple? How do Akin and Yejide each navigate the relationship with Akin’s family? How are family relationships influenced by the struggle between tradition and modern attitudes?

Web Articles for Further Reading:
‘Stay With Me by Ayòbámi Adébáyò review – a big-hearted Nigerian debut by Diana Evans theguardian.com, March 9, 2017.
Subtle, Brilliant ‘Stay With Me’ Blends The Personal And The Political by Lizzie Skurnick, npr.org, August 26, 2017.
Videos: Ayọ̀bámi Adébáyọ̀: Stay With Me | Her debut novel, women in Nigeria and the Baileys Prize, YouTube.com Mar 13, 2017
ayobamiadebayo.com – for more about the author and her other books, visit her website.

2020 SCHEDULE (2019-2020 discussion titles were voted on by group members in May 2019.)      
May 20              How to Stop Time by Matt Haig
June 17             The Word is Murder by Anthony Horowitz

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